the "eff" in effort
Talofa hunnies, if youre reading this then I want to say THANK YOU. I posted this specific blog on the low key mainly because i want you guys to stumble across surprise blogs like this. Once again, grab a schnack and settle in for a cute rant.
The Eff in Effort
9 times out of 10, we find our selves getting bored and losing interest in almost anything we do. Its not an opinion but a fact, (well according to Lydia Rees). No matter what it is, a new job, friendship groups, relationships, marriage, hobbies, there will always be a time where you will get bored or lose interest. Where you get "sick of trying and as heartless as it is to say, I know that as the generations pass through, we grow numb to the idea of fixing things and rather, just throwing them away because its ëasier". *rolls eyes dramatically*
Lydia would like to present to you the EFF (use your imagination in eff), in EFFORT!
Everyone knows that the beginning of a new job, friendships, relationships, hobbies is FUN and EXCITING because we are introduced or being re-introduced to feelings that are familiar or feelings that we enjoy feeling. But for any thing to last, we know that it takes effort and it stresses me out when people let go of things because of a minor stressful phase, which brings me to the title of this blog. The eff in effort. Effen hell.
I have a car named Stitch, blue little shitbox in all its glory. When i first bought this car, of course it was exciting because I wanted to drive it, test its limits, clean up what needed to be cleaned and fixed up things that needed fixing. All was good, until little by little, i started to realise that the more i got to know my car, the more problems i found, the drivers seat not adjusting to my liking, the clutch pedal being more stiff than necessary, the misfire in the engine, the shocks that were absolutely in need of repairs, the bald tires etc etc. I went from every third day at the car wash and every second day repairing something in Stitch, to washing her only if i was going out to a car meet, and only repairing the "obvious" issues. So many times, I wanted to sell her and buy a completely new, standard 4 wheel drive because it would be a lot easier to maintain and there are less mechanical damages. But i didn't , (yet)
But do you know why i still have Stitch today? Despite how many times i have had to pull over and let her cool down, or drive -15km over a speed hump, i still have her. Not because i made a promise to Stitch to try and build her to her best potential lol, but because every time i lose interest, every time i grow bored of fixing things and upgrading things, i try and remind myself of how happy i was when i first took her on a cruise. I remind myself of what my car has the potential to be. I search instagram and facebook of other n15s or just pulsars in general as inspiration to make Stitch a BEAST. effen hell i luv dis car. There are times where a fancy merc, wrangler or bloody r33 would drive past and i am tempted to jump on gumtree and buy one, but I stay focused with Stitch. I put the effort in, to keep her decently clean, running on the road and mechanically healthy. And do you know where i find my happiness in all this, not giving a single TRUCK about what people think is right for my car (unless its the mechanic). Don't like the stickers on my rear window, tough titties. Don't like the white rims and prefer the black rims, whip dee do, don't like how my subwoofer gives off more bass than your dad in an EFKS church, NEWSFLASH, i don't care. If i like it and its not harming my car. LET IT BE.
Same. As. Relationships. The start is beautiful. Gorgeous. Pretty. All so new and fascinating. Its fun to learn their limits, learning about who they are and what they like and don't like. And you may see things about them that you don't like and that's okay! But when you try and fix things, and change things about your partner that you know little to nothing about, just like Stitch, you will end up doing more damage than good. You will see other couples that seem happier than you ; you will see other people and wonder why your partner doesn't say things like someone else, or doesn't have specific features that you like someone else. But remember the reasons you fell in love with this person. Remind yourself of what they have that no one else can offer. Ask yourself why you chose this person over someone else from day one. One of the biggest things in a relationship is doing what is best for you and you partner. People will talk. Whether you like it or not, there will always be someone who is against your relationship but sooner or later, you and your partner will just have to learn how to deal with it. If its not harming you or your partner LET IT BE.
At the end of the day, whether its a car or relationship, , if you both have invested all you possibly could, and things still don't work out right, then its time to let go. Learn to fix things before throwing them away. Because once you do, most of the time their value INCREASES and you will only regret not doing what was right. My hunnies, putting in the effort will make you say ëff"a lot, but its a lot better to try your freaking best to FIX something rather than starting something new.
PUT IN EFFORT
The Eff in Effort
9 times out of 10, we find our selves getting bored and losing interest in almost anything we do. Its not an opinion but a fact, (well according to Lydia Rees). No matter what it is, a new job, friendship groups, relationships, marriage, hobbies, there will always be a time where you will get bored or lose interest. Where you get "sick of trying and as heartless as it is to say, I know that as the generations pass through, we grow numb to the idea of fixing things and rather, just throwing them away because its ëasier". *rolls eyes dramatically*
Lydia would like to present to you the EFF (use your imagination in eff), in EFFORT!
Everyone knows that the beginning of a new job, friendships, relationships, hobbies is FUN and EXCITING because we are introduced or being re-introduced to feelings that are familiar or feelings that we enjoy feeling. But for any thing to last, we know that it takes effort and it stresses me out when people let go of things because of a minor stressful phase, which brings me to the title of this blog. The eff in effort. Effen hell.
I have a car named Stitch, blue little shitbox in all its glory. When i first bought this car, of course it was exciting because I wanted to drive it, test its limits, clean up what needed to be cleaned and fixed up things that needed fixing. All was good, until little by little, i started to realise that the more i got to know my car, the more problems i found, the drivers seat not adjusting to my liking, the clutch pedal being more stiff than necessary, the misfire in the engine, the shocks that were absolutely in need of repairs, the bald tires etc etc. I went from every third day at the car wash and every second day repairing something in Stitch, to washing her only if i was going out to a car meet, and only repairing the "obvious" issues. So many times, I wanted to sell her and buy a completely new, standard 4 wheel drive because it would be a lot easier to maintain and there are less mechanical damages. But i didn't , (yet)
But do you know why i still have Stitch today? Despite how many times i have had to pull over and let her cool down, or drive -15km over a speed hump, i still have her. Not because i made a promise to Stitch to try and build her to her best potential lol, but because every time i lose interest, every time i grow bored of fixing things and upgrading things, i try and remind myself of how happy i was when i first took her on a cruise. I remind myself of what my car has the potential to be. I search instagram and facebook of other n15s or just pulsars in general as inspiration to make Stitch a BEAST. effen hell i luv dis car. There are times where a fancy merc, wrangler or bloody r33 would drive past and i am tempted to jump on gumtree and buy one, but I stay focused with Stitch. I put the effort in, to keep her decently clean, running on the road and mechanically healthy. And do you know where i find my happiness in all this, not giving a single TRUCK about what people think is right for my car (unless its the mechanic). Don't like the stickers on my rear window, tough titties. Don't like the white rims and prefer the black rims, whip dee do, don't like how my subwoofer gives off more bass than your dad in an EFKS church, NEWSFLASH, i don't care. If i like it and its not harming my car. LET IT BE.
Same. As. Relationships. The start is beautiful. Gorgeous. Pretty. All so new and fascinating. Its fun to learn their limits, learning about who they are and what they like and don't like. And you may see things about them that you don't like and that's okay! But when you try and fix things, and change things about your partner that you know little to nothing about, just like Stitch, you will end up doing more damage than good. You will see other couples that seem happier than you ; you will see other people and wonder why your partner doesn't say things like someone else, or doesn't have specific features that you like someone else. But remember the reasons you fell in love with this person. Remind yourself of what they have that no one else can offer. Ask yourself why you chose this person over someone else from day one. One of the biggest things in a relationship is doing what is best for you and you partner. People will talk. Whether you like it or not, there will always be someone who is against your relationship but sooner or later, you and your partner will just have to learn how to deal with it. If its not harming you or your partner LET IT BE.
At the end of the day, whether its a car or relationship, , if you both have invested all you possibly could, and things still don't work out right, then its time to let go. Learn to fix things before throwing them away. Because once you do, most of the time their value INCREASES and you will only regret not doing what was right. My hunnies, putting in the effort will make you say ëff"a lot, but its a lot better to try your freaking best to FIX something rather than starting something new.
PUT IN EFFORT
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