Tighter the better
Talofa hunnies and werrrcome to another blog with ya fav fatty Lia. Today we will be talking about some tight things and yes you guessed it, keeping your circle (of friends) tight. (what were u thinking ;)
I think in almost every blog that has fallen off my fingers and into your eyes, i have mentioned at least a little about the essence of having a good group of friends. And the reason why this subject sits so dear to me is because i myself have been in situations where i had to sit back and look at the group of people that surround me, and now, i see it in my close friends, slowly being pulled by the worlds tide. Are they contributing positively to my well being. if not, why am i allowing them to stick around.
Right now, it seems like the most suitable time to discuss such topics because i want to educate my younger siblings and even other people on how important it is to keep that circle tight (friendship circle that is ;). I once heard from a fortnite camper friend of mine that your friends and even family all play apart of a tree. You have friends who are like leaves, when the wind blows, they shift from side to side, and they grow, change and wither away like the seasons do. Seasonal friends as some may refer to them as. So these people will not always be there, but only in specific times of your life. Branches. Now these friends are a little strong than leaves, sometimes they will still sway side to side when the wind blows a little bit stronger. But at the same time, when the right situations and circumstances come along, they can break off and separate themselves from the actual tree. And then you have the roots. The good old roots. So the people that you would consider as roots are strongest people in your life. They are the ones who will help you grow with no expectation of receiving any praise. The ones who work below the surface. They are the ones that will be there long before the branches and leaves appear, and they will be there long after. There may be millions of leaves, hundreds of branches, but you only really need a few roots (can i get an ameeeeennnnn) amen. halleluia braize da lor.
In saying all this, are you able to identify which friends are leaves, branches and roots? I'll raise my hand and admit that once upon a time, I was the type of person that would worry more about how many leaves i had, how many "friends" i had, and it was easy to get caught up in the fact that quantity was what mattered and BOY was i wrong. I tell you, the truth is, you don't need millions of people to make you feel grounded. You do not need hundreds of friends in your life that are not a positive influence on you. I'm not saying that you need to change your friendship groups NOW, but really have a think about the people who you allow to have a say in your life, and think about how positively they affect you. You'll surprise yourself if you really think about it.
Some people will even say that its not about the people you surround yourself with, but how YOU deal with it, which is true TO SOME EXTENT though. There is this Samoan saying which translates to, "if someone who doesn't steal hangs around someone who does, then surely enough they will start to steal". And if you're a Samoan teen i know you have rolled your eyes to this saying because WE ALL HAVE, but the more annoying thing is, its true. Any young adult who has passed this phase will know that this saying is 110% true, and its sort of bitter sweet especially considering we think we know better than our parents amirite? yezir ... When you are not exposed to alcohol, drugs, stealing etc, you wont understand how this all dramatically changes when you finally are. Lets dig deep by throwing it back to 2012 in Lydia's life. (just wanna quickly say sorry mum and dad lol, but i was young ogayyyy).
Life was good, would finish school and then come home, change out of my uniform, flip open my phone and text everyone "come out, lets play" and then bolt out of the house and into the streets to play with the other kids. And i had this Bestfriend named Sontena (shoutout to my girl)!. We literally did almost everything together, and so when one day she decided to pick up a cigarette and smoke it whilst we walked around st Helens park thinking we were the hottest birds out. You see, my parents taught me all my life, lia don't smoke, don't smoke, never smoke, its no good, don't smoke, lia just don't do it. And i was always like "i know, i know, pliss mum i know, i know im not dumb, im old enough to defeat peer pressure", nek minit, we were out till midnight smoking like we understood what we were actually doing. Then the whole 'spray your whole body with deodorant', and munching down a pack of PK gum just to rid of the smell. Ahhhh good times. But can you see the point? And yes the fact that i was young had a lot to do with it but at what stage in life do we actually say that we are "old enough" and make our own decisions despite the peer pressure?
There were two lessons in the above paragraph- tasi - don't smoke - lua, don't think you're hot while walking around st Helens park. Just jokes m8 - lua, pick your friends wisely. I know that the teen age years we want to try everything and anything cause why not, but when we pass out of these "young and dumb" phases, that's when we need to take a step back and see if we decide to carry these friends into the next stage of a our lives. Also take into consideration that your friendship groups are a circle, the tighter the better ;). TRUST ME when i say, you only need a few friends who support you, boost you, allow you to grow, motivate you to do better, tell you the truth when necessary; much better than hundreds of "friends" who come and go like the seasons.
In the end, who is down for you? Cause trust me when I say, people will only stick around until they get what they want from you or even worse, use and abuse your friendship. I have learnt that the same people who call me sis and babes and hunny are the same modasuckas to be cutting grass from straight under me. The same people who claim to be there through thick and thin are the SAME people to ding dong ditch when its an inconvenience for them. When shit hits the fan, really ask yourself who would drive endless km's to pick you up in a time of need, who will have your back even if it means putting their reputation on the line.
Just some advice from someone who has gracefully passed and sometimes, still finds herself passing through the phases of being young and dumb, if they don't positively impact your spiritual growth, financial wellbeing, physical health, emotional state etc, (in the words of the black modasuka Michael Blackson) DROP THAT NEEGA.
but hey, your life :)
I think in almost every blog that has fallen off my fingers and into your eyes, i have mentioned at least a little about the essence of having a good group of friends. And the reason why this subject sits so dear to me is because i myself have been in situations where i had to sit back and look at the group of people that surround me, and now, i see it in my close friends, slowly being pulled by the worlds tide. Are they contributing positively to my well being. if not, why am i allowing them to stick around.
Right now, it seems like the most suitable time to discuss such topics because i want to educate my younger siblings and even other people on how important it is to keep that circle tight (friendship circle that is ;). I once heard from a fortnite camper friend of mine that your friends and even family all play apart of a tree. You have friends who are like leaves, when the wind blows, they shift from side to side, and they grow, change and wither away like the seasons do. Seasonal friends as some may refer to them as. So these people will not always be there, but only in specific times of your life. Branches. Now these friends are a little strong than leaves, sometimes they will still sway side to side when the wind blows a little bit stronger. But at the same time, when the right situations and circumstances come along, they can break off and separate themselves from the actual tree. And then you have the roots. The good old roots. So the people that you would consider as roots are strongest people in your life. They are the ones who will help you grow with no expectation of receiving any praise. The ones who work below the surface. They are the ones that will be there long before the branches and leaves appear, and they will be there long after. There may be millions of leaves, hundreds of branches, but you only really need a few roots (can i get an ameeeeennnnn) amen. halleluia braize da lor.
In saying all this, are you able to identify which friends are leaves, branches and roots? I'll raise my hand and admit that once upon a time, I was the type of person that would worry more about how many leaves i had, how many "friends" i had, and it was easy to get caught up in the fact that quantity was what mattered and BOY was i wrong. I tell you, the truth is, you don't need millions of people to make you feel grounded. You do not need hundreds of friends in your life that are not a positive influence on you. I'm not saying that you need to change your friendship groups NOW, but really have a think about the people who you allow to have a say in your life, and think about how positively they affect you. You'll surprise yourself if you really think about it.
Some people will even say that its not about the people you surround yourself with, but how YOU deal with it, which is true TO SOME EXTENT though. There is this Samoan saying which translates to, "if someone who doesn't steal hangs around someone who does, then surely enough they will start to steal". And if you're a Samoan teen i know you have rolled your eyes to this saying because WE ALL HAVE, but the more annoying thing is, its true. Any young adult who has passed this phase will know that this saying is 110% true, and its sort of bitter sweet especially considering we think we know better than our parents amirite? yezir ... When you are not exposed to alcohol, drugs, stealing etc, you wont understand how this all dramatically changes when you finally are. Lets dig deep by throwing it back to 2012 in Lydia's life. (just wanna quickly say sorry mum and dad lol, but i was young ogayyyy).
Life was good, would finish school and then come home, change out of my uniform, flip open my phone and text everyone "come out, lets play" and then bolt out of the house and into the streets to play with the other kids. And i had this Bestfriend named Sontena (shoutout to my girl)!. We literally did almost everything together, and so when one day she decided to pick up a cigarette and smoke it whilst we walked around st Helens park thinking we were the hottest birds out. You see, my parents taught me all my life, lia don't smoke, don't smoke, never smoke, its no good, don't smoke, lia just don't do it. And i was always like "i know, i know, pliss mum i know, i know im not dumb, im old enough to defeat peer pressure", nek minit, we were out till midnight smoking like we understood what we were actually doing. Then the whole 'spray your whole body with deodorant', and munching down a pack of PK gum just to rid of the smell. Ahhhh good times. But can you see the point? And yes the fact that i was young had a lot to do with it but at what stage in life do we actually say that we are "old enough" and make our own decisions despite the peer pressure?
There were two lessons in the above paragraph- tasi - don't smoke - lua, don't think you're hot while walking around st Helens park. Just jokes m8 - lua, pick your friends wisely. I know that the teen age years we want to try everything and anything cause why not, but when we pass out of these "young and dumb" phases, that's when we need to take a step back and see if we decide to carry these friends into the next stage of a our lives. Also take into consideration that your friendship groups are a circle, the tighter the better ;). TRUST ME when i say, you only need a few friends who support you, boost you, allow you to grow, motivate you to do better, tell you the truth when necessary; much better than hundreds of "friends" who come and go like the seasons.
In the end, who is down for you? Cause trust me when I say, people will only stick around until they get what they want from you or even worse, use and abuse your friendship. I have learnt that the same people who call me sis and babes and hunny are the same modasuckas to be cutting grass from straight under me. The same people who claim to be there through thick and thin are the SAME people to ding dong ditch when its an inconvenience for them. When shit hits the fan, really ask yourself who would drive endless km's to pick you up in a time of need, who will have your back even if it means putting their reputation on the line.
Just some advice from someone who has gracefully passed and sometimes, still finds herself passing through the phases of being young and dumb, if they don't positively impact your spiritual growth, financial wellbeing, physical health, emotional state etc, (in the words of the black modasuka Michael Blackson) DROP THAT NEEGA.
but hey, your life :)
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