the run away teens
The title may have already hurt your feelings but hey, if the shoe fits, amirite?
Over the years i have witnessed so many people around me feel the need to leave home because things aren't going too great. The saying "there is no place like home" can not be more true. Yes i understand that for some people, home can be a violent and abusive place. Home can be the place where they want to be at the least because of serious issues. but i speak to and behalf of those who have a well structured family, have every reason to be happy and glad and yes remain pessimistic in all situations.
"I want to run away". Damn do those 5 words sound so familiar because not only did they slip off my tongue every now and then when i was a teen age know it all, but because i have seen and heard so many people around me say and do it. So this is simply my observation, my experience and my advice for all teens or even young adults who are experiencing a hard time at home. Why do teens and young adults feel the need to "run away from home?" I feel like the next paragraph is the most common, the most well known, and most relatable when it comes to the Samoan community, and that Money / Work.
Work / Money - I remember starting my first job at Roni's Variety Store, and at such a precious age, i was happy to finally be making my own money because it gave me a sense of independence and maturity. But when pay day came around the corner, and my payslips said $500 but i only received $150 from my parents, of course i was furious. Its not until i turned 18 did i slowly find out the truth about why my parents use all the extra money on themselves. And the truth is, they don't. I want too young and naïve to see that, although i thought they were spending $350 worth of clothes etc, they were actually paying rent (460 week), car rego for the car that they would need to drop me off to work, petrol and maintenance to put that car on the road and keep it on the road, lunch money for every shift that i had, groceries which i came home to so i could eat it, bloody electricity bills, water bills and on top of all that, clothing that my parents would buy for me. But unfortunately, you don't see these things as a teen and so you do the typical "I'm sick of working just to receive blah blah a week". So what do we do. "Im running away", only to return a few weeks later right?
Some lessons are better learnt the hard way and so leaving home allows us to understand how far our pay check will actually allow us to go. It will also open our eyes to see what our parents really did for us, once they stop doing it. I tried doing the whole look after myself while still staying home ; doing my own laundry, washing up my own dishes, making my own meals and boy was i surprised. Some nights i would load up my laundry and fall asleep before its ready to be put into the dryer or hung outside, but come the next day, mum has already dried and folded them for me. Washing my own dishes, man some days i just let it sit on the side because i was too tired, but the next day, my parents would have already washed them ready for use. Yes i even tried making my own meals, which resulted in my buying microwaved food, which was good for a while, until i had no money. but surprise, i came home to a freshly cooked me by my dad. I am not indicating that i am lazy but everyone has days where they feel lazy, and my parents and siblings at home will always cover me. Why would i want to run away from that? Because of money? Because of work? No, its not worth it.
Wanting it your way - I get it, you are a teenager, fresh 18, exposed to night clubbing, drinking, smoking heck sometimes even sex. And so when all these sweet things are now available to you, its no doubt that you will jump at any chance to do them. So what happens when our parents (as their rightfully should), tell us not to. We use the fact that they have a lack of trust, or that all we do it work and give them money and receive nothing in return. No. You will slowly learn that although it is good to maybe have a drink every now and then, or get booogy in a night club every so often, but what is the gain from it? Does it have a positive impact on your life in the long run? Mind you, our parents have already been through what its like to be teenager so why WOULDNT we take their advice. shit man.
But can you see how all of these issues build up all because we think we understand the world better than the people who have given us life, and been on this earth longer than us. I thought so.
I urge all my brothers and sisters who are going through a tough time with mum and dad, and who are thinking of running away for your own sake, look at the bigger picture and try and understand the why's. There is no place like home. Literally, some friends will say that their house is always open until you need a place to crash and then your wallet has to be open. Some people offer to drive you where ever you need but then have "car problems" when you need them. But not with mum and dad.
and plus, if your Polynesians, do you really want that hiding /lecture?
Welcoming 2018 - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com/2018/01/oh-hey-there-2018.html
Superwoman is REAL - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/01/superwoman-is-real.html
Grind how you Grind - https://lydiarees11.blogspot.com/2017/11/grindhowyougrind-lydiarees.html
Over the years i have witnessed so many people around me feel the need to leave home because things aren't going too great. The saying "there is no place like home" can not be more true. Yes i understand that for some people, home can be a violent and abusive place. Home can be the place where they want to be at the least because of serious issues. but i speak to and behalf of those who have a well structured family, have every reason to be happy and glad and yes remain pessimistic in all situations.
"I want to run away". Damn do those 5 words sound so familiar because not only did they slip off my tongue every now and then when i was a teen age know it all, but because i have seen and heard so many people around me say and do it. So this is simply my observation, my experience and my advice for all teens or even young adults who are experiencing a hard time at home. Why do teens and young adults feel the need to "run away from home?" I feel like the next paragraph is the most common, the most well known, and most relatable when it comes to the Samoan community, and that Money / Work.
Work / Money - I remember starting my first job at Roni's Variety Store, and at such a precious age, i was happy to finally be making my own money because it gave me a sense of independence and maturity. But when pay day came around the corner, and my payslips said $500 but i only received $150 from my parents, of course i was furious. Its not until i turned 18 did i slowly find out the truth about why my parents use all the extra money on themselves. And the truth is, they don't. I want too young and naïve to see that, although i thought they were spending $350 worth of clothes etc, they were actually paying rent (460 week), car rego for the car that they would need to drop me off to work, petrol and maintenance to put that car on the road and keep it on the road, lunch money for every shift that i had, groceries which i came home to so i could eat it, bloody electricity bills, water bills and on top of all that, clothing that my parents would buy for me. But unfortunately, you don't see these things as a teen and so you do the typical "I'm sick of working just to receive blah blah a week". So what do we do. "Im running away", only to return a few weeks later right?
Some lessons are better learnt the hard way and so leaving home allows us to understand how far our pay check will actually allow us to go. It will also open our eyes to see what our parents really did for us, once they stop doing it. I tried doing the whole look after myself while still staying home ; doing my own laundry, washing up my own dishes, making my own meals and boy was i surprised. Some nights i would load up my laundry and fall asleep before its ready to be put into the dryer or hung outside, but come the next day, mum has already dried and folded them for me. Washing my own dishes, man some days i just let it sit on the side because i was too tired, but the next day, my parents would have already washed them ready for use. Yes i even tried making my own meals, which resulted in my buying microwaved food, which was good for a while, until i had no money. but surprise, i came home to a freshly cooked me by my dad. I am not indicating that i am lazy but everyone has days where they feel lazy, and my parents and siblings at home will always cover me. Why would i want to run away from that? Because of money? Because of work? No, its not worth it.
Wanting it your way - I get it, you are a teenager, fresh 18, exposed to night clubbing, drinking, smoking heck sometimes even sex. And so when all these sweet things are now available to you, its no doubt that you will jump at any chance to do them. So what happens when our parents (as their rightfully should), tell us not to. We use the fact that they have a lack of trust, or that all we do it work and give them money and receive nothing in return. No. You will slowly learn that although it is good to maybe have a drink every now and then, or get booogy in a night club every so often, but what is the gain from it? Does it have a positive impact on your life in the long run? Mind you, our parents have already been through what its like to be teenager so why WOULDNT we take their advice. shit man.
But can you see how all of these issues build up all because we think we understand the world better than the people who have given us life, and been on this earth longer than us. I thought so.
I urge all my brothers and sisters who are going through a tough time with mum and dad, and who are thinking of running away for your own sake, look at the bigger picture and try and understand the why's. There is no place like home. Literally, some friends will say that their house is always open until you need a place to crash and then your wallet has to be open. Some people offer to drive you where ever you need but then have "car problems" when you need them. But not with mum and dad.
and plus, if your Polynesians, do you really want that hiding /lecture?
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Follow the links below to read some previous blogs.
Welcoming 2018 - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com/2018/01/oh-hey-there-2018.html
Superwoman is REAL - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/01/superwoman-is-real.html
Grind how you Grind - https://lydiarees11.blogspot.com/2017/11/grindhowyougrind-lydiarees.html
Heads or Tails uce? - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2017/11/headsortailsuce.html
Special Delivery - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2017/12/specialdeliverywithlydia.html
Work Hard - Play harder - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2017/01/work-hard-play-harder.html
Tufugas Mat - Part 1 - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/02/tufugas-mat-part-1.html
Tufugas Mat - Part 2 - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/02/tufugas-mat-part-2.html
The Eff in Effort - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/02/the-eff-in-effort.html
Truth about Casual Sex - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/02/grey-topic-10-dress-casual.html
I do... Not - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/03/i-do-not.html
Work Hard - Play harder - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2017/01/work-hard-play-harder.html
Tufugas Mat - Part 1 - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/02/tufugas-mat-part-1.html
Tufugas Mat - Part 2 - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/02/tufugas-mat-part-2.html
The Eff in Effort - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/02/the-eff-in-effort.html
Truth about Casual Sex - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/02/grey-topic-10-dress-casual.html
I do... Not - http://lydiarees11.blogspot.com.au/2018/03/i-do-not.html
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