Lets Get Naked!?

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LETS GET NAKED?

"Can you see the difference between being undressed & being bare?"

Written & Published ; Lydia Rees

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Firstly I would just like to acknowledge and thank a personal friend of mine, Gabrielle Afamiliona for being behind the idea of this specific blog. Keep on grinding girlfriend!
Before reading, please please please be advised that this is simply my opinions and experience. Feel free to message me if you think otherwise, or comment on any of my posts! I am open to a friendly discussion / debate where necessary.

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Being in the most fastest times of our lives, it’s no surprise that the definition of words have evolved to suit the generations that have passed through. For example, the word "lit" originally meant "set alight", and "swag" was an easy-to- carry sleeping bag and not an adjective that meant "cool" etc. And so a word like “naked” simply means undressed or unclothed; Google even defines the word naked as “without clothes” but I know for sure that many others , Including myself have found a new definition. A definition with a deeper meaning.

Being bigger than what society considers beautiful, and being of a darker complexion than the average taste of men, the thought of taking all my clothes off made every bone in my body quiver, every goose bump on my skin stand up, every heart beat double in time. I couldn’t stand the idea of being nude in front of anyone especially a lover / soul mate because I feared judgement. I feared rejection. I feared being compared to someone else that wasn’t me, compared to someone with a skinnier waist and a lighter complexion. Or compared to someone with prettier features and better hair. ya know?


Don’t get me wrong though, I like love my bigger than average breasts. I don’t mind the belly that sits in front of me and rolls up when I sit down. I actually like having love handles because they’re some what useful for other things (hehe). I don’t really care about having almost no ass and I sure as hell am fine with having big juicy ;) thighs. What I didn’t feel comfortable with, was  the thought of presenting myself before a lover/ friend/ soul mate just to feel unappreciated, unloved & rejected. All of these thoughts seemed to tower over me & controlled a big part of my life for so long, but little did I know, being this type of naked was far easier than the OTHER kind of naked. 

Oh you haven’t heard about the other kind of naked? Well shit, grab a surfboard & get ready to ride this wave with me. (Yes John, you can have a surfboard as well Haha) 

Imagine this. Cold winters night, and you lay on the arm of your lover in the back seat of a four wheeled drive, windows fogged up & parked in the dark where the moonlight shines straight through the sun roof. The street lights are blurred through the windows. The silence is broken by beginning to discuss the future. You lay down everything. You've created a bond with this person which has allowed you to feel comfortable and safe with laying it all down. Everything. They have guaranteed you that they will accept you naked and also bare. They tell you they would understand and so you lay it all down. Everything that has ever haunted you. Every dream that has made you wake up in a cold sweat. Every goal that you had and have. All your dreams, aspirations, motives & inspirations. You tell them everything that you hate about your body. Every time you cried over something silly. Every time your parents made you feel less than another sibling. You tell them about how you fear what the future holds. You fear the day that your lover wakes up and decides that they want to "do life alone". You tell them everything... Everything. You are practically naked. And the funny thing is, it doesn’t even have to be a lover or soul mate that you’ve opened up to... more often than not it can be a close family member, a very close work colleague or a best friend.


You see, taking off your clothing is one thing, but stripping yourself bare of what you usually keep to yourself, revealing the parts of you that makes you YOU, is what makes you bare. Ya feel? People in 2018 have grown to accept their flaws, they have learnt to love their imperfections and because of this mindset, would freely go nude. Ask yourself, if you are ready to go bare in the clothing and personal sense, what do expect back from it? Acceptance? Love? Appreciation? And are you ready to risk showing and telling all, when the chances of rejection and judgment are so high. The answer will vary depending on YOU and what you want. 

I eagerly await for the day where all my sisters on every corner of the earth find someone or something who makes them feel comfortable and beautiful enough to be nude, and bare,  and still remain in a judgement free world.





But can you see? Can you? Can you honestly see the difference between being undressed & being bare ? I don’t know about you, but me, I would rather eat healthy (for a week only) and be deprived of summer than to ever be nude, bare, or even the slightest bit vulnerable for someone who I know won’t appreciate me that way I do and who only accepts me if I'm naked.  Never go nude if you're not ready to sis. Never go bare unless YOU want to. We need to understand that the depth of our intimacy with people determines our level of passion for others.


I value intimacy, but I value privacy and dignity so much more. 

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I have to say, this blog was a lot harder to write because I am fully aware that there are so many opinions that surround this topic but; I said from the start and I will say it again & again,  I am here to share a piece of my naïve brain & this blog is just another little piece. I am not and will  not tell you what to do with your body,  but just like everything else in this world, you can be for or against but remember to stay groovy.
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cya x

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